The old the haunting

I was just reminded today about a fairy tale I use to love, but now just thinking about it brings up an issue. The princess and the frog.


What in the world was this teaching little girls. Of course look beyond the books cover but what else can you get from this story. A beautiful princess finds a frog that tells her "If you kiss me you'll see I am a prince and will owe you the world." I once loved this story but now I see something else. A girl finding an awful man and trying to bring out the great in him she thinks is there. Lets face it be honest what most girls want more is a man who's unchangeable. One who's hard to get and even harder to fix. We hold on to this idea that they are good somewhere deep down and we might be the ones to break there hard exterior and our gift will be the soft core.

What are the chances of this really happening though. If you think about it most people change when something happens in their life that shows them who they don't want to be and who they are becoming and they change. They'll change their habits friends and life style and men well they have to suffer huge loss to experience this moment of "Do I change or stay the same." They have to lose something they hold dear but for guys who need to be changed usually its something to do with them selves like a job, car, hair and other selfish materialistic items.

Whats the out come though? Makes you wonder what would a women endear for a man she thinks deserves it. For example a man who beats his girlfriend for years but she stays for hope he'll change and they'll finally get their "happy ever after". What the women really gets is a court date not a happy ending with her so called "prince charming". On average how many times do these men really change with that same person in my life I haven't heard of one. I've heard of them changing with someone new but never the same woman that let him hit her more then once in the first place. It's not the woman's fault that in life we're taught to stick it out for what we believe in, no one ever warned me not to believe in trash and by the time they had it was to late I was already in love with scum with the hope he'd change and be my prince.

The sad thing is we sit by and think oh its just a cute love story that's all no harm no foul but isn't true some feminist wont let their children watch fairy tales for this very reason or for that matter play with barbies. If I had known better I'd say there was a very good reason for this and I get it now. Who's to say if it really sticks close to heart fairy tales and all but I know they did for me.